Juan’s Content: Love is a verb, B*tch

There is this super jacked guy called Wes Watson on YouTube. He spent 10 years in prison for assault and other drug-related charges. This is a pic of him:

He may seem like the kind of guy who could snap you in half, but he does have an interesting message about love 😂. That love is a verb, b*tch. There is a lot of swearing, you’ve been warned 😂.

Imagine your people write you a card:
“Hey I love you so much. I’m so grateful for you… blah blah blah”.
All these HOT ASS EMPTY F*CKING WORDS.
Oh, you love me? Same way you love stuffing your face with snacks and burritos every f*cking day until you suddenly die on us?
That sure looks like 20 years of love, how you just steadily got worse on me.
If you don’t love yourself very much, motherf*cker, then you can’t love others very much.

You do love your people, you beer-drinking, out-of-shape, low-level, broke b*tch. You love your people as much as you comprehend what love is. And what you comprehend love to be is how you treat yourself, b*tch.
You’ve let yourself down so much that you think “Love is just words”.
You say things, but you never do anything about it.

For 10 years I first cultivated love within. Mine ain’t just fucking words.
I was in prison and I was so lonely. Nobody came to f*cking see me.
It’s not that they did not want to see me. They just don’t know that Love is a f*cking verb. I wanted love so bad that I decided to create it for myself. And when I gave it to myself, I attracted it.

The only true depiction of self-love is an investment in self.
How do you know what self-love is? Anything that’s disrespecting yourself or the future of your people has to go.

You should not be wowed by anything in life. You should be going after it with such f*cking intensity that it’s proof that you love them. “You can tell he loves his family. Did you see what he did for them last year? The year before? Year after year?”

It’s okay to not know any of this. Nobody taught anybody this. But after you hear this message, it’s not okay to stay that way. Drop the bullshit, start to love yourself.

Michael’s content: When in Doubt, Assume the Best

Last week I read this book called Humankind: A Hopeful History by the Dutch author Rutger Bregman. It’s an optimistic book, about how humanity is fundamentally good, which is seemingly a controversial viewpoint nowadays. Humans are innately kind, cooperative, and trusting. Having this changed perspective, purely changing how you internally view the world around you, allows you to live a life more empathetic, and more interconnected with everyone else.

There were quite a few quotes that I really liked, but this one fits closely with something that I’ve been thinking about lately, especially while doing all my travelling:
“Accept that you’ll occasionally be cheated; that’s a small price to pay for the luxury of a lifetime of trusting people”. If you go about life constantly worried that someone will pickpocket you, and distrust each person around you fearing that they will harm you, then you constantly burden yourself with needless stress. Being cautious is prudent, but excessive suspicion will deprive you of the joy that comes from trusting, and open-hearted interactions.”

Many people will jump to conclusions when they see something they can’t quite place. Someone accused me of trying to steal a bike the other day while I was just searching for where I parked mine. Jumping to negative conclusions just worsens your own life; even if you’re wrong, you will be able to live life more enjoyably by assuming the best of the people around you.

And lastly, here is the story that encapsulates the idea of this book:

An old man is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old man simply replied, "The one you feed."

Projects:

• Accountability Groups: Starting new groups on Monday, February 5th, so far we have a a handful of new people that have shown interest in joining across our 3 different groups.

• Ambitious Bois Newsletter: We’ve started to promote this newsletter a bit more heavily among our circles, we had the internal goal to each reach out to 100 people about our newsletter.

• The Language Project: I still need to work on adding the Chinese vocabulary words in for this next week.

Accountability Groups:

• So far, nobody has failed the exercise group this month 🙌

• Now for February, we are starting 4 different groups:

  • Exercise

  • Digital Minimalism

  • Wake Up

  • Daily Tasks (basically you pre-decide three tasks you need to get done the next day, and we hold you to it)

• More details, and signup link here

• Reach out if you have any questions about this :).

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